stress fractures

I managed to give myself a stress fracture in mid-December.  My leg hurt when I walked, throbbed on the stairs, and scolded me loudly every time I carried a child.  Silly leg didn't seem to understand (or care) that these are things that I can't just stop doing.  It seemed like it would hurt forever and honestly it made me cry a few times -- not because of the pain, but because I was SO frustrated that I couldn't do some things I wanted to do and the things I had to do were painful and mainly because it just seemed like it would never end.  And maybe the most frustrating part is that there wasn't anything to DO about it.  Wait.....wait......wait.....and I am not good at waiting.

There are other "stress fractures" in my life too.

Timber's temper tantrums.  I know he will outgrow them.  I know that there is very little I can do to calm the storm once it starts.  But it's SO frustrating!  This morning he spent an hour and a half crying because he wanted blueberry oatmeal and we don't have any blueberry oatmeal.  He's sick and he's hungry so I know he's not thinking straight.  What would make him feel better?  EATING.  Just like the Snickers commercials where the bear turns into a person (or something like that) after eating a Snickers bar.  But what does he refuse to do?  EAT.  I've learned that even providing the blueberry oatmeal is no guarantee he would eat it when he's in this mood -- he would find something wrong with it.  So what do I have to do?  WAIT.  Because eventually he will get distracted from his irrational fit and accidentally put something in his mouth and -- voila! -- the angry bear turns into a sweet little boy.  So not only do I wait wait wait for each tantrum to pass but I also wait wait wait for him to outgrow this phase.  Impatiently. 

Mealtimes.  Feeding kids is the worst.  Today they love mashed potatoes and hate chicken.  Tomorrow one of them hates mashed potatoes and the other two suddenly love chicken.  Next week they will all despise mashed potatoes and chicken.  And a month later they'll eat all the mashed potatoes and chicken off my plate but won't touch it if I fix it for them the next day.  Ditto that to every food I've ever given them.  If I had to identify a specific "stress fracture" in my day to day routine it would definitely be dinnertime.  Even when we fix things that I think they'll really like it's never 100%.  There's always one that doesn't like it.  I know that they will eventually be good eaters (Flora is already much better than the boys -- maybe going to school boosts a kid's appetite?) but in the meantime it's SO frustrating to fix their plates and then hear the usual whining/complaining about what they don't like.  So it either requires a gargantuan effort by me to stand over them and insist they eat their food bite by bite or I don't force them to eat their dinner and pay for it at bedtime when they start whining about how hungry they are.  There's probably a better answer......but I don't have it.  My current plan of action is to put reasonably healthy food in front of them every night and wait for the magical day when they all clean their plates.  Wait wait wait.....I'm not very good at waiting.  

So I know I've been pretty whiny -- "my leg hurts.....Timber is irrational.....the kids don't eat what I fix for them......boo hoo......" -- but I've been thinking a lot about the parallel between a physical stress fracture and "stress fractures" in life that you just have to wait out.  The trick is to 1) give the fracture the time it needs to heal naturally, but 2) put just a little bit of pressure on the fracture so as not to completely disrupt daily life, and 3) avoid unnecessarily stressing the fracture further (which could result in a break).  

I could have listed several other non-physical stress fractures but they're not the kind of things that needs to be preserved forever in blog format.  Hopefully when they fade away I'll completely forget that there was ever a problem.  Hopefully someday I will read over this post and laugh to remember the complete absurdity of Timber's tantrums.  Hopefully someday I won't be able to imagine a time in which the boys weren't eating everything in sight!  (I've heard that getting teenage boys to eat isn't usually a problem.)  Hopefully I'll wonder what those other stress fractures I referred to were.  Hopefully.  But, of course, I will have a whole new set of stress fractures that I'll be waiting to heal at that point.       

Ok, I needed to write all that.  Maybe I'll need to read it later.  Sorry for anyone else who actually read the whole thing.  Sometimes blogs are just for myself.  :)

The good news is that my leg is so much better now!  I've started walking on the treadmill again, although still a couple more weeks before I can run on it.  And I learned a very important lesson -- build up slowly and if something starts hurting then STOP RUNNING ON IT.
I lack patience.....and apparently quite a bit of common sense too.  ;)   

2014 -- i yam

I'm going to start 2014 by getting two things off my chest.  Two things that I have recently accepted about myself. 

1.  I am a messy person.  We are a messy family.  Our bedrooms are rarely clean.  And though I do my best to keep the living room/dining/kitchen areas presentable the truth is that they're usually pretty messy too unless someone is coming to our house.  I've abandoned my lofty ambitions of keeping all the bedrooms clean and the guilt that visited every time I failed -- they'll get cleaned every week or two and I won't care about the mess in between.  Because, really, why should kids have clean rooms??  A tidy house is a boring house.  I mean, where's the thrill in opening a closet if there's not a chance that something will fall on you?? ;)

2.  I like to stay up late at night and sleep late in the mornings.  I thought this would change once I had kids.  And then I felt like I should change those habits because sensible adults go to bed early and wake up early.  But now I've realized that I don't have sensible adult sleeping habits and there's really no reason I should.  I will stay up past midnight any time I want and on the weekends I will sleep as late as the kids will let me.

This is going to be a good year.  :)

So, now, back to the kids ---

This year we decided to celebrate New Year's Eve with the kids.  We knew Timber wouldn't last but were fairly certain Flora and Scout could stay up until midnight.  We built a fire, played The Game of Life, watched some tv,  and ate ice cream cones as we waited for the big countdown.   As predicted, Timber crashed around 10pm. 

With a few minutes until midnight we instructed Flora and Scout on the proper way to carefully toast with glass cups and poured some sparkling grape juice into two little whiskey glasses for them.  We started counting down from 20 seconds, shouted HAPPY NEW YEAR at midnight, and clinked our drink glasses.  There was jumping and dancing.....and by 12:04 Flora was fast asleep on the couch.  Chris was asleep soon after Flora and I was left with a crazy-eyed wide awake Scout.

 

 

I read somewhere on facebook that the way you ring in the New Year is a predictor of how your next year will go.  If that's so then 2014 will be another year of silly, sweet kids and barely controlled chaos.  Good times....

One of my 2014 resolutions is to blog more.  That doesn't mean I will blog more but a girl can hope, right??  ;)

showers

Before kids, I didn't put much thought into showers.  I took a shower every morning -- easy peasy, no big deal.  I could wake up slowly and start the day at my own pace.

But now I have kids.....

So I set my alarm early and HOPE that I can make it through an entire shower without interruption.  If it's a REALLY good day I make it through my shower AND get completely ready before any of the kids wake up.  But it doesn't always work out that way....

Here's a quick recap of three of my morning showers THIS WEEK:

Shower 1.  Timber came to our room while I was in the shower.  It was very early.  He was still very tired and grumpy.  He sat on the rug outside the shower and cried, "No shower, Mommy!  Get OUT of the shower!" during my entire shower.  It was awesome.

Shower 2.  I made it through my entire morning shower with no kids showing up!  Hooray!  But as soon as I turned the water off I heard Flora yelling for me from her room.  When I got in there she said, "Um, I feel wet."  Yep, she'd peed her bed and apparently the feel of pee on her skin renders Flora completely helpless.  It's been over a year since she's had a nighttime accident but of course it happens right AFTER I get clean.   

Shower 3.  Today I showered later since it's Sunday and we don't have to get up before sunrise to get ready for school.  So all three kids were wandering in and out of the bathroom the entire time.  Timber whined and grumbled about me being unavailable.  Flora asked a lot of obvious questions ("What are you doing?  Why are you taking a shower?  Do you have soap in there?").  And Scout had to poop.  He announced that he had to "go" right after I'd gotten into the shower so I just told him to go in my bathroom toilet which is conveniently located right outside the shower.  He "went" (with Flora, Timber, and me for company in the bathroom) and I wiped his little bum from inside the shower.  Seriously.    

On the bright side, only three bad showers means that I had four UNinterrupted showers this week! 

And in case you're wondering why I don't just lock the bathroom door --- our master bathroom is open to the master bedroom (whoever thought this was a good idea should be banned from designing homes forever -- I mean, c'mon, WHEN WOULD THIS EVER BE A GOOD SETUP???).  I could lock the bedroom door but that would just result in the first kid awake crying and banging on my bedroom door and waking up the other two. 

So, that's the way it is.  But it's temporary -- and actually quite amusing if I can keep a good attitude about it.  I mean, how many people get to start their days with such exciting and unpredictable showers??

today

TIMBER

Me:  Timber, how many days until your birthday???
Timber:  THREE!!!
Me:  Yes!  And how old will you be?
Timber:  THREE!!!  And then in ten days I will be TEN!!!

Hm....points for logic, but still totally wrong. 


SCOUT

When I picked up Scout from preschool today his teacher pulled me aside and told me a funny story.  Apparently their little CD sings an alphabet song and uses the word EXIT as the X word.  Scout informed his teacher that "EXIT doesn't start with an X -- it starts with an E."  She was impressed and amused.  He's kind of a know-it-all with anything that has to do with letters.


FLORA

Tonight I watched covertly as Flora danced around the room singing Taylor Swift's We Are Never Getting Back Together into a hand mirror.  I'm not even sure how to process this.....  All I know is that her teenage years are going to be interesting.

this and that -- funnies

Flora:  Mommy, our class got on the school bus too early and we had to wait on the bus for TWO HOURS!  Or maybe two minutes....I can't remember....

*****

Scout:  Mommy, when you paint all day I just think that you don't love me anymore.  (During the week that I was painting the exterior of the house)

*****

Timber has started calling himself  "Imber Wimber" and he calls Scout "Outy Outy"

*****

Timber:  My pepperonis are too spicy.
Me:  Flora, do you want to eat Timber's pepperonis?
Flora:  No way, pepperonis are TOO spicy.
Me:  But you ate yours already.  ??
Flora:  I know.  I just ate them because I didn't want them on my plate.  

*****

Scout lost a race and threw a fit.  I was trying to explain why that is not the appropriate way to act when you lose.  Flora chimed in and said, "Besides, Scout, the game is not special.  It's Jesus that's really important."  
Well played, Flora.  I bow to your wisdom on this matter.  :)

*****

"A Joke" by Flora
Flora:  Why did the water bottle get a water bottle?
Me:  I don't know.  Why?
Flora:  To get a water bottle.

scout starts preschool!!

Scout started preschool yesterday.  He was SOOOO excited until bedtime the night before school started.  Then he started asking questions like, "What if I miss you?" and " What if I get sad?"  So I wasn't sure how drop off would go -- and since I was going to have Flora, Timber, and Logan with me I knew I wouldn't be able to handle a meltdown very well.

But he did great!  He woke up excited and couldn't wait to go to school.  He walked right to his classroom and gave his teacher a hug.  I said goodbye and quickly left while he was searching for the backpack hook with his name on it.  Then I sat in the van watching in the window until I saw his little red head bopping around the classroom.

And we left.  And it was that easy!  Yea!!

Scout's favorite part of preschool:  "Naptime."  Hmm...
Scout's least favorite part of preschool:  "Nothing.  It was all good."  :)

Timber gave Scout a BIG hug when he got home from school and Scout told him all about his day.  Then we ate the special after-school cupcakes that Scout had picked out and gave Scout his first-day-of-school surprise (an Angry Bird toy).

A very good start to the school year.

The only problem?  Now Timber wants to go to school and he still has two years to wait until he starts preschool.  I might just let him pick out a lunchbox to feel included.  If I'm packing two lunches in the morning it probably wouldn't be too hard to go ahead and pack three.  ;)

So that's where I am now.  Packing school lunches.  Checking backpacks for homework.  A big change from the days when synchronizing three naptimes was my top priority! 

i love it when they talk about "grown-up" things

Flora:  I was the first one of us who was born.
Scout:  Yeah, and you're the only girl Mommy bought.
Flora:  Scooouuuut, you don't BUY babies.
Scout:  Yes, you do.  You buy them at the hospital.
Flora:  No, the hospital just finds a way to get the babies out of the Mommy's belly
Scout:  Oh.  I wonder how they do that....??
Flora:  Well, sometimes they have to cut you open but if you're a grown up it doesn't hurt.  Hospital people are just really good at things like that. 

babies and big kids

Baby James was born last week!  In fact, it was last Wednesday, so HAPPY ONE WEEK BIRTHDAY to Baby James!  It's shocking to see a newborn when you haven't seen one in months.  He was much smaller than I remembered newborns being -- exquisitely tiny.  Were my kids ever that small??  Really??  Well, I guess, technically, I never saw Timber that tiny but they were all much, much smaller than they are now. 

It's such a blur.  I remember each of them being born.  I remember celebrating birthdays and changing diaper after diaper . . . I remember silly moments and frustrating moments; watching them sleep and watching them play.  I just don't remember watching them grow up.  Even Timber, my "baby," is walking, talking, feeding himself, and holding his own in wrestling matches with Scout.  Definitely NOT a baby. 

But big kids are fun too.  A lot more fun than babies, actually.  It's good for other people to have babies so that I can touch super soft baby cheeks and snuggle with a perfectly content newborn but I don't need any more babies of my own.  I'm having fun with the big kids in my life now!  They're so silly and always so surprising! 

And they're starting to think like adults, which can be scary --
Last night Timber was upset because Scout found a toy guitar that he had been looking for.  Scout was playing with the guitar and refusing to share, Timber was crying because he wanted the guitar, and suddenly, Flora points to the kitchen and yells, "Hey, look!  Donuts!"  Scout and Timber ran into the kitchen only to be disappointed at the absence of donuts.  I asked Flora why she said that and she answered, "I was hoping that Scout would drop the guitar to see the donuts and then I could get it for Timber."  Haha, not the ideal solution to the situation but I definitely gave her props for originality! 

Baby picture after eating.  He's so peaceful.  It makes me sleepy just looking at him.

Big kid picture after eating.  Notice ALL of their mouths are open telling me something -- once they start talking it really doesn't stop.  Although I've heard that the talking drops off significantly once they hit the teenage years.

Baby picture after a bath.  His skin is practically glowing with softness.  All ready for a cuddle.

Big kid picture after bath.  Again, mouths open.  I think I told them to roar for this one though (because Scout's towel is a dinosaur).    

testing, testing...

Trying out the new Blogger app on my phone.
Here's a few Easter pics to make this post worth your time:

sleepovers

Hello blog.  I have no excuse for not blogging more often . . . well, maybe I have some excuses but none of them really excuse how badly I've neglected the blog.  Oh well....

So, sleepovers. 

The kids LOVE having sleepovers.  They would all sleep in the same room every night if I would let them but since they always stay up SUPER late together I only allow sleepovers on Friday and Saturday nights.  Here are a couple really sweet sleeping pics I've snapped over the past few months: